Michael: So do you think 'BLSSDX4' means that they have 4 kids?
Me: Yes I think so, would it mean anything else, otherwise?
I knew Michael was being facetious when he asked me this question. The sentence dripped with so much sarcasm I could hardly answer him back without laughing. It was blatantly obvious that the vehicle in question, a ginormous red Suburban complete with the family STICKers on the left hand side of the rear window, intended to
The laughter soon faded as the cynical part of my brain took over.
Damn Fertilists, why do they get to define what being 'blessed' means?
Once again a 'blessing' or 'blessed with' is equated with being on the receiving end of having children. And once the child(ren) come, they are equated with being 'miracles'.
Don't get me wrong. I truly understand the sentiment. Children really are miracles when you think about the fact that a typical couple, with no fertility issues, only has a 25% chance of conceiving each month. And once that couple has conceived there is a 10% to 20% chance of losing that baby through miscarriage in the first 20 weeks of gestation. So I get that babies are 'miracles' and parents are 'blessed' when they get them.
I just hate that these two words are used all the time in relation to babies, fertility and parenthood.
What about the rest of us, who have not been chosen to be 'blessed' with a 'miracle'?
I know for me, I feel left out, ignored and forgotten by God. I know that is not true, but I feel it on days when others people's fertility is being shoved in my face. God is not even the one doing the labling of what a blessing or a miracle is, its people.
Why hasn't God chosen to bless us with a miracle? Well, He has, but not with a baby or a pregnancy, and not in a way other people may view as a blessing or a miracle.
God has blessed me with a great husband, one who loves me, communicates with me, respects me and is sarcastic with me. A man who takes me to the movies every weekend in the Summer. A man who takes me to Disneyland every year on our anniversary and my birthday.*
The greatest miracle God has blessed us with is a great marriage, and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
*I understand that there are a lot of Mes in that paragraph, but this is my blog. I can put as many Mes as I want to :)
